PERSONAL THOUGHTS : I first met Anita Sarko when she was packing up to leave Atlanta.The divorce wa final and she finally felt she was financially secure enough fron the divorce to move to the big city and do what she actually wanted to do. She was a very assertive woman, but Southern style .. and style was her middle name . We both had a keen interest in contemporary art and many a week day we would do the galleries. She told me she wanted to dj at the most au courant club in town,I told her to work her blond Southern wiles on Steve Mass. She did. She became a dj at the Mudd Club. And was the first celebrity female DJ that was not spinning at a gay disco, The fashion people always loved her and she was well known and respected as a music consultant by many famous and to be famous designers, She never worked for me but did help Houi Montag developed his "No Entendre: night at Danceteria 2 , She prefered Brazilian to Thai hands for her makeovers. And always dazzled us with her beauty. In life we all make choices and she choose Rudolf over our friendship . I knew that the kind of person I would hired would be like Anita, a fabulous present and skilled at what they did be it door or dj or art. .. and usually unemployable in the real world . So there were no high feelings , just distance on my part . I knew that people in this City no matter how glamorous still have to pay the rent etc,, .. others were able to negotiate that delicate balance with me, but not Anita. She said we fell out over politics .. she shouted at me calling me a maoist . It made me smile ... she cared about the world in the way I did and I was happy to be able to spar with her over politics . That said I am saddened today to think that I will not see her around Sheridan Square, I am very aware of how disposable talent and experience is in this town obsessed with youth. Many of us are reaching an age where life becomes all about survival and dignity, Thank god for GOFUNDME ,, no shame if it means the difference between life and death, I want to close by saying this about Anita: you could not imagine a more fabulous, glamorous, intelligent, opinionated DJ or member of the Downtown crew that reinvented night life 1978-2000 than Anita Sarko.. Please share you memories as her spirit leaves the planet on a BARDO journey and may she return as the presence she would want to be, "Hey Anita: It's closing time ..so play the last song for tonight please, I don't have to tell you to make it special"
That was a beautiful video, Jim Fouratt. From what you wrote, it seems like you were a true friend to her, even though she did not realize it. I am stunned that such a beautiful and intelligent woman took her own life. What style! That wig is an amazingly accurate choice to accentuate her look. You are correct in your assertion that "Many of us are reaching an age where life becomes all about survival and dignity". I never knew or met her, but I wish she had found inner peace and the means to survive the aging journey with a sense of meaning. Thank you for sharing this.
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